6 Myths and Misconceptions about Anal Sex

Anal sex… what do you already know? Or at least, what do you think you already know? Though the concept might be a bit unsettling for some of us, our reluctance to engage in anal sex might only be the fault of a few tired myths and misconceptions. Anal sex can be a fantastic way to supercharge your sex life, so let's do aside with the myths and reveal the facts.

Here are your top myths about anal sex debunked:

1)   Anal sex will always hurt

Like the vagina, the anus needs some stimulation too. A penis won't just slide in without any foreplay, as the anus is less elastic than the vagina. But not to worry, by using a lubricant penetration can be as smooth a ride as you like. Remember, unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so lubrication is really important, especially for you beginners. Rubbing lube into the rectum during foreplay will be a definite way of ensuring smooth penetration as well as pleasuring your partner.

Experimenting with sex toys can help your partner loosen up mentally and physically and it’s a sure way to soup-up your sex drive . Once your partner is comfortable with the idea of anal sex, sex toys can be used to heighten the power of your orgasms.

2)   You can’t orgasm during anal sex

Of course you can orgasm in anal sex! The last national sex survey recorded that a massive 94% of women reached climax during their last anal sex encounter, higher than both vaginal and oral sex statistics.* When the shaft of the penis hits the g-spot from a particular angle, you’ll be right where you want to be! Many women who have given anal sex a try find that it’s an easier way to climax and start preferring it to vaginal sex.

3)   Anal sex is dirty

As anal sex takes place in the rectum, many of us find ourselves subconsciously associating it with feces. Anal sex isn’t unclean, but that doesn’t mean you don’t need to be hygienic. Making sure to change condoms between anal and vaginal penetration will make sure there’s no chance of any microscopic fecal elements entering your vagina. If you want to be ultra-safe, try washing with antimicrobial soap before vaginal re-entry or just end your sexual exploits for that evening with anal sex.

4)   Anal sex is only pleasurable for men

Anal sex is just as enjoyable for women as it is for men. Men enjoy it because the anus is tighter than the vagina therefore allowing for more friction. There are psychological advantages for men too, the desire to perform the “forbidden”. For women, the feeling of having a penis inside you but not through your vagina is intriguing. The anus has a lot of nerve endings that can help arouse a woman in ways that vaginal sex simply can’t.

5)   Your anus may stretch out of control

One of the most ludicrous myths that we have about anal sex is that it will loosen your anus and will prohibit control of bowel movement. The anus, like a vagina, relaxes itself during intercourse however it goes back to normal later. Anal penetration also makes your muscles stronger and will eventually give you more control over them.

6)   A penis won’t fit in ‘there’

Some of you might find it hard to believe the penis will actually fit, but don’t worry, take the proper preparations and you’ll get it right first time. Try to relax as much as possible - if you’re not properly relaxed, your anal ‘pubococcygeus’ muscles will be too tight and penetration won’t work. The widest part of the penis is the head, so if initial penetration is a little uncomfortable, don’t worry as it becomes a lot easier. If it does hurt a little, make sure you’ve used enough lubrication and try stimulating the clitorous at the same time to encourage a pleasure over pain response.

Now that we've busted a few of the myths around anal sex, you've got all the facts and you’ll want to give it a go. Want to learn more about how to enhance your sex life? Why not try hosting a Soft Paris party plan event, have the chance to speak to our expert advisors and get tailored advice in the privacy of your own home.