The twisted threesome: You, your partner and a vibrator...

Women often resort to vibrators when partnered sex is off the menu and using one with your partner may be something you’ve not yet considered. But using vibrators during partnered sex may be more common than you think, according to a study by Trojan: - 53% of women and 45% of men between the ages of 18 and 60 have used a vibrator during sexual interaction. - 80% of women who have used a vibrator have used it with a partner. Though vibrators are typically used for solo masturabation, introducing them into a relationship can prove to be even more pleasurable. So it’s time to quit seeing vibrators as a women-only sex toy and start seeing how they can spice up your shared sex life. Here are our 4 steps on how to introduce vibrators to your partner.

#1 Be comfortable with your vibrator

You may LOVE your vibrator, but how comfortable are you talking about it? Before you try to bring vibrators in to your partnered sex life, make sure you’re completely happy and relaxed with the concept, if you’ve any hesitations, it’s probably not the right time yet.

#2 Take it slowly

You’re partner probably knows you use sex toys, but if they don’t, start introducing the topic slowly: have a look through the Soft Paris catalogue together, share a few blogs, there’s lots of things you can do.

#3 Teach

When both you and your partner are comfortable with the idea of using vibrators, it’s time to teach them how to use it. The easiest way to show your partner how you like to use your vibrator is to put on a show. If you you feel a little self-conscious, you might want to consider blindfolding yourself. If you’re still a little uncomfortable with the idea of a show, just try talking to your partner about what you like. Don’t get too hung up on the ‘right way’ to do things, just describe what you’re doing and what feels good. Don’t forget - communication is key during this kind of exercise.

#4 Using the toy together

So you’ve introduced, discussed and demonstrated the concept to your partner, now it’s time to take the plunge and give it a go. Hopefully you’ll have built up some anticipation and you’ll both have been looking forward to  it. Guide your partner in how to use your vibrator properly - positioning, pressure, angles, etc. It may take them a little while to get use to it, so if they aren’t getting it right first time, be patient. Once you’ve mastered the art of using a vibrator together and you’ve made sure you both enjoy it, it’s important to include it in your sexual routine. To find out more about how to turn experimentation in to routine and routine in to habit, then book a Soft Paris party plan event, where one our expert advisors will offer personal and confidential advice as well as showcase our fantastic product range.