Slow Sex - Relearn the discovery of your partner ’s body

The “slow sex” (or erotic deceleration) technique is increasingly promoted in Hollywood: Will Smith, Blake Lively, Ryan Reynolds, Sting and many more have purported its virtues. Aside from its glossy celebrity image, “slow sex” is an ancient method favouring foreplay and caresses over speed. If it works well for Ryan, why not try it yourself and stop indulging in speedy sex? In addition to its many benefits, slow sex is said to be a way of helping men who suffer from premature ejaculation - very useful before the invention of Viagra!

The case of two partners

“Forget performance, slow sex is primarily about self-awareness and your partner taking care of you, the opposite of rapid, orgasm-searching sex. It takes a greater amount of time and can only be performed at the convenience of the couple, given the usual candles, scents and other preparations that need to take place beforehand” says Alain Heril, French Sex Therapist. “By slowing down, we become more aware of him or her, their physical and emotional singularity. Sex is primarily an exchange, a connection that must enable us to complete each other. After all, a relationship requires two partners. Meanwhile gentlemen, if you make love to a woman for a three-figure number matter of minutes, you’re guaranteed to make her happy!

Okay, but how?

The look, the touch, the breathing - they are all linked to the search for pleasure. Sensitivity enhances the sensations. Don’t skimp in the preparation - soft colours, velvet, silk, scented candles, incense or music all play a great role in making you comfortable and ready to enjoy the moment together. As far as movements are concerned, there is a huge difference between ritual and routine and this is the difference growing your complicity as a couple and infinite boredom. For example, a ritual could be attentitively giving each other a foot massage every week and taking pleasure in doing so. Alternatively, a routine might be performing the same gesture, but doing so everyday in front of the television without any real regard for the recipient. To look, talk, caress and massage is to listen to our bodies and come together in a sensory ecstasy. It is important not to underestimate communication and to share feelings before, during and after sex - “I liked it when you did [X]” or “I’d really like it if you could do [Y] again next time...”.

Soft Paris is here to help!

Soft Paris, number 1 seller for lingerie, sex toys and cosmetics is here to help you awaken your senses to slow sex. If softness is important in slow sex, then the Soft Paris Plume d’Amour - Tickler is the ideal accessory. You may also want to decorate your nipples with the Thalia - Nipple Jewel to delight his eyes.  You’ll find happiness in our ranges of cosmetics, four flavours of our Délicieuse - Massage Oil will pleasure your palate and your body. The warm inviting scent of Encense Moi - Incense Sticks or the delicate fragrance of Exquise - Massage Candle will be sure to set the mood for luxurious massages. Don’t forget to dress for the occasion, the soft Carmen - Silk Kimono will contrast with your skin for a moment of unforgettable complicity. Equally, our satin Vertige - Babydoll will subtly unveil your curves whilst giving you comfort and remaining smooth to the touch.   Remember, gentle, slow, tenderness, listening and sharing are the bywords of slow sex. Our Soft Paris Advisors are ambassadors of happiness and will give you fantastic tips and advice  during your Soft Party. Do not hesitate to book your Soft Paris Party to discover all the essential products for enjoying every moment of slow sex.